Substance or non-substance use behaviors often begin as pleasurable experiences: disinhibition, experiencing intense sensations, achieving the feeling of interpersonal closeness. When this search has reached a regulatory, psychic and adaptive relief character, it will have already passed to the field of addiction. One of the most recurrent questions in the case of addiction in the consultation of patients who suffer from their disease is: “Why have I developed an addiction and others who also went out to party and tried drugs like I did and nothing happened to them?
Everyone knows the response based on the bio-psychosocial model, which is substantial and scientific, but sometimes remains distant and little personalized if the psychosocial dimension is not deepened. It is necessary to understand and know how to treat the gestated dysregulation tendency from the attachment style developed during the experiential and relational history of the person. It is ideal to desensitize those memories that support the identity associated with “feeling/s”, the insatiable need for validation, be silenced, calmed, or enhance avoidance in the face of emotions, situations, and/or conflicts.
What the theories about Attachment defend is that secure attachment is “the best superpower of heroes that our children need” and the good news is that it is repairable with specialized techniques and this would be the basic way to do prevention. Research in the field of attachment broadens our understanding of the development of security and self-confidence as a result of relationships established with parents.
The attachment style will determine much of the affective life and the styles of interpersonal relationships, but above all, it will establish the bases for self-regulation or emotional dysregulation. The first attachments in life are the most important as they constitute the frame of reference for all future relationships. People who had an attachment model that gave them security have more advantages to face life. People who tend to grow up feeling insecure with difficulties to handle anxiety, anger, or rage when they do not get what they expect or when things go wrong often have these symptoms:
- Do not have a secure attachment model
- Cannot be calmed or looked at
- Were never held when they have felt disturbance or discomfort
- Their basic needs have not been met
- Might not have been comforted when they have fallen
- Their emotions or discomfort has gone unnoticed
Changing the experience is not possible at all, but it can be reprocessed and desensitized. The addict will take on the challenge of an approach that plunges into the path that understands and alleviates the need for regulation; It is ideal for them to open up to a therapist and embrace the idea of change. The approach to addictions and/or emotional disorder at a deep level must be linked to understanding and knowing how to treat the secure/insecure/disorganized, ambivalent attachment style that the person who suffers may have. The person being treated must be ready for the ride to prevention and/or recovery.